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Me: "I got a crush on someone"
Luna: "Ok. What is he like?"
Me: "Well, he's a white Aussie guy..."
"Anyway, I should forget it. The age gap is so... big."
Luna: "Ok, like 10 or 15 years older than you?"
Me: "He's nineteen."
Luna: "Nineteen years older?"
Me: "No, he's nineteen."
Luna: "Nineteen years older, that's like fourty something years old?"
Me: "No. He - is - nine - teeeen."
Luna: "oh okay..."
"That's unusual. Usually the asian guy would be the younger one."
Me: "Yeah. I'm definitely fine with guys 10 years older."
"I just never imagined being with someone 5 years younger before."
"That's like, almost Edward's age..."
I had a crush on Rena. I kept telling myself "It's not gonna work. He's only 19. He won't settle down with an old guy like you. Look at him on the dance floor with a dozen asian boys throwing themselves at him. He's got plenty of choice and you clearly won't make the list. Get real!"

Was age really ever an issue?
I knew Rena was never that into me despite his flirty messages calling me handsome, babe, greeting me sweet morning, and sending me other flirty messages. Probably it is all in the spirit of friendship, and it is likely that he sends the very same message to many other asian boys. Irina said I took them too seriously as no one has done those to me before. I knew it. Still... I had the infatuation for weeks.
And then I got an email from Deirdre...
You've Got a Mail
"Hey Grant,
I wish I'd known about your blog earlier! I was working on an 18-month sexual health needs analysis, looking at international students, both gay/bi and straight, living in Melbourne. Reading it, I feel encouraged that my findings are on the right track..."
Deirdre found and reed this blog. Apparently he was writing a research paper about international student sexual health needs some time ago, and he wished he had discovered my blog earlier. It sounded very interesting so I asked him to catch up and tell me more about his work.
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